This is the view my family has of me…A LOT of the time. I’m either checking my phone or tablet.
I’ve had a few wake-up calls in the past week. Today I was in the pool with my daughter at swimming lessons and looked up to see many of the parents head down in their phones. It looked awful.
My husband told me I was “f***ing rude” when I whipped out my phone to check emails ( they are mostly junk anyway) and Twitter while we were having a coffee. It is rare we have a coffee together sans kids and I couldn’t even give him my full attention for the 20 minutes I had before I had to get back to work. He doesn’t do smartphones or Facebook or Twitter. He doesn’t get it. He thinks it’s ridiculous that the last thing I do before going to bed ( usually a good few hours after him) is check the news and other stuff.
And the worst thing? My daughter, who is just three, has more frequently been tugging at my arm saying “look at me, mummy” when I answer her without looking up from my phone.
That’s the kicker for me. I don’t want my kids to think that’s the norm – for their mum to be head down in her phone and tablet. I sure as hell would be pissed of if my husband did what I did – sat glued to the couch, engrossed in my technology.
I mean, I can explain away some of it: “Mummy is writing, that’s her job”, “I’m just checking the news/sending an email/tweeting because if I don’t keep up with social media I am irrelevant”.
Zoning out, however, for 10 minutes on Angry Birds while sitting in my wardrobe is a little less “work-related”!
So, I’m going to try my self-styled “Operation iDown” – an attempt to be far more present with my children and husband. I’ll put the iThings down more and keep the tech to a minimum when we are together.
I’m hoping it’s not such, in the words of Chicago, “a hard habit to break”.