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  1. Default Pink

    May 15, 2013 by emilybwebb

    I am ashamed to say it took a stranger to reaffirm to me that my daughters don’t need to fit into gender defined expectations, namely pink. There’s nought wrong with pink. It’s the way “pink” has infiltrated culture as a statement on princesses, femininity and what a girl wants.

    I was in Aldi and I spotted some cute fleece jackets. “Perfect for daycare,” I thought. “And at a tenner what’s not to love?”

    Without a thought I started searching through the pink options for a suitable size, bypassing the vivid blue & light brown options. My daughter piped up “I want Blue mama!”.

    A woman nearby said: “that’s a girl who know her own mind” (she does) and “if she can make a choice to resist the ‘princess pink’ at this tender age then she can be anything, maybe Prime Minister”.

    This lady, older, maybe a grandmother herself (she struck me as a woman who would have had The Female Eunuch on her bookshelf in the 70s) made me snap back and see how easy it is to slip into lowering expectations of my girls.

    It’s not pink that’s the problem – I love the colour pink…it’s “PINK”. You know, the type of “pink” I associate with P-plater girl drivers who have Playboy stickers on their car. The yukky “pink” princess shit that’s around everywhere.

    In fact, maybe it’s my perceptions that need to change?

    As I type, my 4yo has just walked in to show me she’s dressed a Ken doll in Sleeping Beauty’s pink princess dress.

    I like her style.

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  2. The tweet truth

    March 23, 2013 by emilybwebb

    Sometimes my heart drops when I get replies on Twitter. It usually stems from something I’ve tweeted or replied to.

    I’m a bit sensitive. I’m one of those who likes to be liked. I’m not controversial on twitter. I just like to be part of the mix.

    I tweeted a quite boring, fluffy thing today. I’d spent an hour looking at makeup online. I go through phases where I chuck out all my crap in the top bathroom drawer & start again.

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    I got a reply asking “how much did Bobbi Brown pay you to tweet that?”.

    I felt sick. Not at the person but at the tweet I’d sent. I don’t do sponsored tweets. I blog infrequently. Because I write all the time I’m used to writing. Tight copy. My tweet sounded very commercial but not intended to. (I’m getting to my point, I promise).

    Then I suddenly felt pissed off because it feels like you can’t genuinely do a product/service shout-out without people wondering if it’s sponsored.

    There’s a lot of chatter on Twitter and at conferences and all that on monetization and sponsored posts and tweets. I’m not in that realm so it doesn’t affect me but I do like to talk
    about stuff I really like.

    Has the proliferation of sponsored posts/tweets/twitter parties and all that stuff meant the death of a genuine product recommendation? Are we too cynical now because of Social Media?

    (Disclosure: I do have a true crime books blog and get sent lots of books to review.)

    Anyway, here’s some interesting links I found when I Googled “have sponsored posts ruined social media?”

    - the Top 5 Ways Social Media has Completely Tainted Fashion Week

    - Will Pay-Per-Tweet Ruin Twitter? (From 2009)

    - Will marketing muck up Social Media?


  3. Valentine’s Day

    February 14, 2013 by emilybwebb

    I’ve never been one for Valentine’s Day. I find the whole thing rather tedious.

    My husband and I don’t really mark it, citing the commercialism of the day as off-putting and
    mocking the Valentine’s Day announcements in the newspaper.

    But I can’t help looking back whimsically at the days pre-marriage, mortgage and kids when there
    were some grander gestures of romance that I took for granted. The flowers delivered to my
    workplace. Expensive Hermes perfumes. The night when I was on a date with my now husband
    that he led me to the City of London churchyard (St Bartholomew the Great) used in the film Four
    Weddings and a Funeral and (somewhat drunkenly) professed his affection for me.

    I was young and arrogantly thought these things would last forever.

    Fast forward 10 years and we have two kids and a hectic life, as every parent will relate to. The
    romance isn’t dead but it has somehow been consigned to the bottom of our priority list below bills,
    work, appointments and sleep.

    We have tried to introduce a regular “date night’’ every few weeks but this has been haphazard at
    best. A visit by our in-laws saw a flurry of socialising for us where we went to see a band in
    town (we lived on the edge and didn’t get home until 1am), dinner and a few evening strolls alone.

    We often go to the movies when we get a chance but I read somewhere that this wasn’t a
    good ‘’date night’’ option because it didn’t allow couples to talk to each other.

    I don’t consider myself high-maintenance and I was never the kind of girl who dreamed of the
    fairytale romance and wedding with all the trimmings (eight people were at our wedding at a
    registry office in England and I didn’t wear a wedding dress). But I am more aware now that we
    really need to make sure OUR relationship doesn’t disappear completely amid the stuff that makes
    up our life.

    I can genuinely see how when the kids leave home, many couples find that their relationship is
    no longer recognisable. There’s just so much to do and so many pressures in life that you plough
    through without stopping to nurture your relationship and yourself.

    Amid the shock of becoming parents and the franticness that brings to life, I have managed to
    take pleasure in the small gestures. In fact, I have been making a more conscious effort to notice
    the things my husband does around the house and for the family so that he feels appreciated too.
    (When we have an argument it is usually about us feeling unappreciated and the nagging each other
    as a result of those frustrations.)

    So, that cup of tea he brings to me every morning at 6.30am could be the ultimate romantic gesture
    and he doesn’t wait for one day of the year to do it.


  4. e-book back log

    January 3, 2013 by emilybwebb

    coffee and book

    I was having a look through my iPad last night and I discovered I have several books on iBooks on there – all unread. Some are PDFs that I have been sent to review for my other site truecrimereader.com but there was one in particular that I’d completely forgotten about – and it surprised me. This got me thinking about traditional books versus e-books. The e-book in question was Don’t Look Behind You by Ann Rule. I bought it well over a year ago and I’ve read the first few pages. I keep forgetting it is there.

    I love Ann Rule books. Ordinarily it would take me a few days to a week to read one. I’ve whiled away many a pleasant hour (the subject matter is not pleasant but I am a crime nerd and it’s my favourite genre) or two reading her crime case compilations and have been completely engrossed by her longer titles like The Stranger Beside Me and Small Sacrifices.

    One thing I don’t like with e-books is that often, there are no photo inserts like there are in traditional print books. Another think is that while an iPad or Kindle is compact and easy to carry, I like to carry my books around with me and fling them wherever I am – the kitchen, bathroom, floor (I use my daughters’ doll house as a shelf too and often find my books,and coffee cups,there).

    I just haven’t built the reading relationship with my electronic devices that I have formed for books and magazines. Of course, this is to be expected. I am 36 and have had my iPad for two years. Books, I have had for all my life so far.

    I do, however, (and as a newspaper journalist I find this a bit alarming but also a sign of the times) read my news completely online – news apps, twitter. Rarely do I buy a newspaper. (I have jumped the pay wall  for newspapers and magazines…I think it’s important to support this. (I was a The Daily app newspaper subscriber and am really disappointed it has been axed. It was my night-time reading!)

    There’s something about having a book in my hand, or in my bag (or the at least 10 I have beside my bed at any one time) that just makes my heart sing. I love my books.

    Maybe I’ll come to get used to e-books too.

    Meanwhile, I’ll get cracking on that Ann Rule book…

    Are you an e-book fan?


  5. Best Kids’ CDs

    December 9, 2012 by emilybwebb

    I’ve been sorting through my children’s CD collection and there are so many memories associated with the music we have been listening to for over six years since my eldest was born.

    I was happy to get rid of some – Bob the Builder, a Disney CD where songs were sung by Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck et al – but there are some that I think I’ll keep and that are still great for bedtime or the car.

    I’ve scaled my all-time favourites (so far) to three CDs.

    1. That Baby CD 

    Source: thatbabydvd.com

    This is a fantastic collection of adult-oriented songs produced for children. Released in 2007, this collection features family friendly acoustic and vocally arranged versions of songs like  “Songbird” (Fleetwood Mac), “These are Days” (10,000 Maniacs), “Garden Song” (Peter, Paul and Mary), “Pony Boy” (Bruce Springsteen) and “St Judy’s Comet” (Paul Simon) among others.

    We have played this CD to death since we got it in 2007, when it was released by  American couple Rob and Lisi Wolff. The Wolffs released a hugely popular CD and DVD called Oy-Baby with songs for Jewish Babies and Kids. Their good friend Stephanie Schneiderman, a musician well-known on the Portland, Oregon music scene, produced the tracks for the CD and sings on most of the songs. My favourite tracks are These Are Days, which is a rousing version of the song made popular by 10,000 Maniacs, and Happiness Runs/Circle Game, a combo of the songs sung originally by Donovan Leitch and Joni Mitchell.

    Available from thatbabydvd.com

     

    2. Big Songs for Little People by Rory McLeod

    Source: Fourdogsmusic.co.uk

    I’m a big fan of British wandering minstrel  Rory McLeod and his collection for children is a wonderful CD. The theme of the wind is ever-present on this CD with songs and spoken word tracks like “Me and the Winds Blow”, “Polar Winds” and “What the Winds Carry”. There is also a wonderful spoken word track, which my children adore, called “Death in a Nutshell” which is a very age-appropriate tale of the life cycle and death.  My favourite track, which is the most gorgeous song about a child becoming an older sibling, is called “Big Brother Soon”.

    Available from rorymcleod.com

    3. Putumayo Presents Dreamland

    Source: Putumayo

    This collection is played a lot at our house at bedtime. (I’ve even put it on my iPhone and play it at night to unwind.) Soothing songs and World lullabies from Africa, Europe, North and South America and Asia, this collection is a must-have for parents. My favourite track is “Naima” by Beninese singer Angelique Kidjo (and featuring Carlos Santana).

    Available from Educational Esteem


  6. The Melbourne Cup

    October 31, 2012 by emilybwebb

    I held THE Melbourne Cup today at work. The cup was visiting the Herald & Weekly Times building at Southbank this morning and News Australia employees had the chance to have their photo taken with the iconic prize.

    My knowledge of horse racing is quite poor ( if you want proof read about how Black Caviar cost me $1 million) but as a Melburnian – hell, Australian – it was a thrill to clutch “the cup” (with gloved hand of course!).

    Here are some Melbourne Cup fast facts:

    - The 3200m race is run at 3pm on the first Tuesday of November and is the richest prize in Australian sport.

    - The 2012 Emirates Melbourne Cup trophy is made by Hardy Bros from solid 18ct gold and valued at $175,000.

    - The first Melbourne Cup was run in 1861.

    - my favourite Melbourne Cup winner name is Rain Lover ( 1968 and 1969). Controversy surrounded Rain Lover’s second win because the race favourite Big Philou, trained by Bart Cummings, was the victim of a doping scandal and was withdrawn from the race half an hour before the start.

    Source: melbournecup.com and racerate.com

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  7. Yowie Sightings

    October 13, 2012 by emilybwebb

    Ever since I interviewed Dorothy Williams of Australian Rare Fauna Research Association (ARFRA) I am completely intrigued by the thought that Yowies exist. ARFRA is a voluntary organisation that records and investigates sightings of unusual animals.

    Don’t know what a Yowie is? A Yowie is Australia’s Bigfoot/Yeti and over the years ARFRA has received witness reports of Yowie Sightings. The thought that “hairy man” beasts exist is so very apealling to me.

    It turns out there is a community of believers out there who are in search of the elusive Yowie. The main sources for information on Yowies are Australian Yowie Research and Tim the Yowie Man. The Australian Yowie Research site has information on sightings all over Australia and there have been sightings reported as recently as 2011.

    There’s been so many sightings that they can’t all be the words of drunks or people who are crackpots…right?

    I found this video on YouTube. YowieHunters is the account for Australian Yowie Research & they have a video of former Queensland Nationals senator Bill O’Chee describing his Yowie sighting when he was on a school camp as a 13-year-old.

    There’s also this news story from the 1990s that’s quite kitsch & interesting.

    Do you believe that Yowies exist?


  8. Lunchbox memories

    August 4, 2012 by emilybwebb

     

    Imagine this guy in your lunchbox! Nom, nom. Image: http://www.freedigitalphotos.net

     

    This week, a stranger told me she felt sorry for me.

    I was (glamorously) standing in the aisle at Aldi and the woman in front of me turned around to admire my three-year-old’s bumblebee dress up (she insisted she go shopping in it).

    At the time my daughter was waving around one of those squeeze yoghurt things  and I explained to the woman what it was.

    “I am so glad I’m past all that stuff’,” the woman commented.

    `I feel so sorry for you young mums these days, you are so judged on everything you do and what you give your kids to eat.”

    We carried on chatting and she told me she had a son who was 34 and had a nut allergy but she went on to say it was never a problem the whole time he was at school. (The warning notices on the wall of daycare and  school of the kids with life-threatening allergies was like a neon sign in my head as we were talking.)

    Her son would have gone to school in the glory days of the 1980s, just like me, where our parents sent us off with lunchbox treats like Uncle Toby’s chewy peanut butter muesli bars (I can still taste their nutty yumness!)  and drink bottles filled with cordial. Once a fortnight I’d get a lunch order – always four steamed dim sims and a choc-iced donut.

    I admire people’s lunchbox creations when they share them online – I’d love to put together a bento box – but it’s not going to happen. I stick a treat in the lunchbox most days (Freddo frog, muesli bar, Big Ted, homemade…well..Betty Crocker biscuits) as well as a salad wrap, fruit and “brain food”.

    I’m always on the lookout for lunchbox ideas but I need it to be quick with minimum fuss, especially on the mornings I work.

    I actually find making the lunchbox more stressful than anything I face in a day at the office.

    Maybe it’s the subconscious  fear of lunchbox judgment…?

     

     


  9. Black Caviar Cost Me $1 Million

    August 1, 2012 by emilybwebb

    I should hang my head in shame.

    I went on Millionaire Hot Seat as a contestant and I, embarrassingly, got wrong a question I should have known.

    I auditioned for the show for a laugh and was phoned up a few weeks later to film the show in May. My episode aired on July 24.

    I never expected to win any money but looking back, if I hasn’t got the damn question wrong, in the words of Marlon Brando “I coulda been a contender!”.

    Here’s me hamming it up for the introduction.

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    It was going pretty well. I got through some fairly easy questions and made a few quippy references and had a joke with host Eddie McGuire.

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    Then, I got the question… I knew I would falter on a sports question and this one, in particular, was pretty bad for a Melbourne journalist to get wrong. It was on the great racehorse Black Caviar.

    Q: What kind I’d horse is champion sprinter Black Caviar?

    I chose “gelding” because I literally have no idea about horses and zero interest.

    The answer was, of course, “mare”.

    Here’s my moment of “DOH!”.

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    Even Eddie said, “you’re a journalist and you don’t know what horse Black Caviar is?”.

    “I’m not a sports journalist!,” I sadly replied.

    It was a fun day regardless of walking away with nada cashola.

    I met some really interesting and lovely people, saw how the show is filmed and met Eddie McGuire, who is so freakishly professional.

    These toilet signs gave me a chuckle when I was visiting the Big Rocking Horse in the Adelaide Hills in July.

    Seems I can’t escape the question I bombed out on.

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  10. Who am I?

    July 28, 2012 by emilybwebb

     

    Watching the London 2012 Opening Ceremony (cracking job by Danny Boyle, by the way) has left me thinking a lot about my cultural identity and where I feel I belong.

    I was born in Australia in 1976 and that was a very fortunate event considering that where you are born is largely a fluke and obviously, out of your control.  According to The Global Poverty Project, 1.4 billion people in the world live in extreme poverty. The project’s Australian Director Samah Hadid says “…we have been lucky in the lottery of birth…”. In that sense we really are the “lucky country” for those born here.

    In 1999 I first moved to London and in 2006, I became a British citizen. It wasn’t as straightforward as that though. I married a Brit, trained as a teacher and taught in London schools, did volunteer work, bough property, had a baby and immersed myself in British culture. I LOVE the United Kingdom. It was a good home to me for almost seven years and I miss it every day.

    I swelled with pride watching the London Olympics opening ceremony and part of me felt like a traitor. I mean, I have an Aussie accent, I was born here but I made the choice to become British. I endured the long application process, including queuing from 3am at Lunar House in Croydon to put my application in for “Leave to Remain”.  The experience was eye-opening, to say the least. The Home Office had my passport for over five months when my citizenship application was being processed  and prior to that, I sat the Life in the UK test (I got full marks, thank you very much). I cried when I sang “God Save The Queen” as I sat with others from so many other countries of the world who were becoming Brits too.

    Australia is a good country. At present my children are in an excellent childcare and primary school and they are happy and safe. We have a home and jobs and opportunities. When I was a teacher in London I taught children who had to flee their homelands in fear for their lives – Somalians, Iraqi, Sudanese, Kurdish, Kosovan, Afghani, Eritrean children…I could go on.

    During my secondary and University education in Melbourne I studied some Australian history and politics and aspects of our cultural identity (Gallipoli: Myth or Reality by the wonderful Dr Neil Thornton was a favourite subject). When I lived in the UK, I became acutely aware of how others view Australians and it was almost always as a cultural stereotype. (“Alright Sheila” or “G’day Skip” was a favourite greeting of a boss I had.)

    At the moment (and for a long time), I feel that I am British in my heart. Why do I live in Australia? My family is here, our life is good here and at the moment, there is no reason to go back to the UK, other than to satisfy my own longing to be immersed back in all things British.  It is, honestly like a heartache sometimes when I think about Britain and I wasn’t even born there!

    But I worked hard to live my life there. My life in Australia has been pretty easy through the sheer fact I was born here.

    I’m interested to hear what people think?

    Are you a dual citizen and have similar feelings?

    Does it mean more to you if you choose to become a citizen of a country?